Relationship Advice - Does
Ex Boyfriend Want You Back?
When a relationship as smooth and
ecstatic as yours, suddenly comes to a grinding halt, what do you
do? How do you face this breakup? How do you know if your ex will
want to get back with you or not? What is the next step that you
should take? Just when everything was going smoothly in your
relationship, you find yourself in a breakup. What led to this
calamity? Does your ex want you back? What should you do to know
what he is really thinking?
His behavior will indicate his actions. Even if he tries to act as
if he is still interested in you, by flirting and talking, do not
take these signs as proof that he is still interested in you.
You might take your cue and remain a bit aloof in your behavior
towards him. Let him not feel that he can take you for a ride.
Instead, let him wonder what is going on inside of you.
You can observe his moves and watch his reactions when you are
around. He may not want to hurt you outright, so he may try to
soften the blow, by being kind in his behavior towards you, or even
pretend to be amorous, at times. How can you know whether he wants
to let you down gently and get on with his life? You need to make a
decision and you can only do so if you know the truth behind the
Finding out the truth makes a big difference. Getting him to talk to
you and tell you the truth may not always work, but it is one way to
discover what is really going on. Or, you can observe him behaviors
as the above paragraph mentions and figure out what he's telling you
that way. This isn't the easiest thing to do, you often have
to make your best guesses, but it can be done.
If you stay calm and composed and do not react to his charming
overtures, or flirtatious behavior, you will be able to keep cool
and assess the situation correctly. You may consider sending out
feelers about your real feelings and give him something to work
with. This will give you an idea about the action that you will want
Initially, you are terribly upset and miss him so much. You may have
said the worst things to each other and upset the other, but yet,
when a breakup happens, you realize how much the other meant to you
and how much of a void, this separation is going to make. You recall
the good times you spent in each other's company and think of the
happiness you shared. You suddenly find that you cannot bear the
loneliness and hopefully, this may be a mutual feeling shared by
both of you.
Sometimes your boyfriend will miss you over time, just like you are
missing him. So you may not be alone in what you are feeling, even
though he dumped you. So one thing you can do is check in with him
every week or so and have a light chat about things and gauge and
read his reactions.
There is one way of finding out. Put the question upfront to him and
ask, "Do you think we can ever get back together again?" Watch his
reaction as he is faced with this outright question? It may reveal a
lot as to his state of mind.
Not everything may be as easy as it may sound. You should be able to
figure out, if he is playing a role and leading you up the garden
path, only to take his bittersweet revenge and teach you a lesson.
You may be unnecessarily reading between the lines but it is good to
be prepared for the outcome, whatever it may be.
The ultimate decision to make up and have your lover back with you,
is yours and yours alone. If you feel he is sending you the right
feelers and you are convinced they are genuine, you can truthfully
answer the dilemma of, "Does my ex want to get back with me?" and
enjoy the making up and hold on to what you have.
There is a whole bunch of things you can do differently once you get
your ex back. You can learn from your mistakes and from his to try
to avoid trouble in the future. You don't want to end up back in the
same place, lamenting the loss of your lover a month down the road.
Once you have made up your mind to pick up the pieces and cement
your relationship again, do it with the right frame of mind. Keep up
to your aim of enjoying your life and take up the challenge full-on.
We never got taught relationship skills in school.
Spending a few minutes learning more relationship intelligence can pay
off with years of more love, deeper bonding and emotional connection.
Relationship advice can be simple and doesn't need to be hard to