Relationship Advice - Get
Ex Back Fast
When you want to get ex back, you have an
uphill battle ahead of you. After all, they are your ex.
They have said they are done with you. How do you overcome
To get your ex back, you first need to understand what went wrong.
This is the first key to making it happen. And there are, in
general, only three main causes for relationships to break up. To
fix the relationship and get your ex back, you have to begin by
understanding which of these three reasons caused your relationship
to go in the crapper.
The first cause for relationships end is because you wronged your
mate. You cheated on them, you verbally abused them, you ignored
them, you fought with them too much. In some way, or in several
ways, you wronged your mate, you did not treat them well. This is
one of the most common reasons that relationships end. We've all
probably wronged our mate some, but if you do it in a major way or
continually over time then you are going to lose them. We'll
discuss in a minute what to do to get an ex back if you wronged
The second cause for relationships to end is because your mate
wronged you. Perhaps they cheated on you, or were abusive with you,
or drank too much, or fought with you too much, and you couldn't
deal with it. You had to say enough. If your mate cheats on you and
you do nothing, you are just being a doormat. So kicking them out or
ending the relationship is often the best choice you could come up
with. Being wronged by our lovers is a common reason for ending a
The third cause is that your ex just isn't into you anymore. This is
when you have drifted apart. There wasn't enough fun, or it got
boring, or the sex got mechanical, or whatever. This is a huge cause
of relationships ending. All over the world, one or both partners in
a relationship are falling out of love. If this continues, one
partner will eventually end the relationship.
There is a fourth cause, which is just a combination of the above.
Maybe your ex wasn't that into you anymore, and they cheated on you.
It may seem like cheating was the main cause the relationship ended,
but underneath, the real problem is that they weren't that into you
anymore. So there are generally just the three main causes, and then
you get combinations of other things, like verbal abuse or neglect
or too much fighting. But almost all reasons a relationship
ends can be traced back to one of the three causes above.
So, your ex left you for one of the three causes above. Your
question is, how do I get my ex back? Well, if you understand the
cause, you are already off to a good start. Each main cause for
relationships ending requires a different reconnect strategy to get
them back. It isn't a one step applies to all situation.
The top method for getting your ex back when you have wronged them
is to do a Deep Apology. This is different than saying that you are
sorry a million times. Most people have no idea how to do a real,
sincere, deep apology. Generally a deep apology has five to seven
steps. The first step is to admit that you did wrong. Just admit it.
Don't give a hundred excuses. Fess up.
Another step that most people miss by a long shot is one of the most
powerful ways to get your ex back. And this step is to allow your
partner to vent. Instead of you talking and blathering on about how
sorry you are, admit you did something wrong and then ask your
partner how what you did made them feel. Then Shut Up!
Let them talk. This is a key part of how you to
to do the whole get ex back thing and make it happen. You have to
let them release their negative feelings, get them off their chest.
Because most people miss this crucial step, their apologies land
short. They leave their mates full of lots of anger. You have to let
them vent. This is the crucial step that most people
don't understand how to do.
The third step would be to then apologize
deeply and sincerely. If you have confessed to doing something
wrong, and then let them vent, they may accept your apology and give
you another chance.
The next main cause for relationships ending is your ex wronged you.
Maybe they cheated on you, you got mad, and kicked them out. Now you
want them back, but you are still mad and worried about if they will
cheat again. Your trust has been broken.
There is a different reconnect method for this,
which is another five to seven steps. But the key is for you to vent
to them. "When you cheated on me, it made me feel x, y, and z." You
have to get your negative feelings off your chest, and have them
promise to not wrong you again.
You don't want to argue, you don't want to attack, you want to vent,
get things off your chest. So you have to set it up in the beginning
to be safe. You tell your ex "I don't want to argue, I just want you
to listen to me, no need to defend yourself here, the point is for
you to hear me..."
This is key to beginning to deal with however
your mate wronged you. There are other steps, but this one is the
most important. Before you try to get them to promise to be
different, make sure you have vented so that you can begin to
release some of your difficult emotions.
And if the cause of your relationship ending is they just aren't
that into you anymore, then you need a different strategy
altogether. This cause is one of the hardest to overcome, but in
some cases it can be done. What you need to do, essentially, is to
find out why they aren't into you anymore, and then see if you can
change that thing and convince them that you have changed.
If they aren't into you because you are don't
have a job, you have to then go get a job first. Don't beg and
plead with them to take you back. Go get a job! Then
convince them that losing them made you change so that you can be
counted on to keep a job in the future.
You have to find out the main reason or two
they aren't into you. There actually are one or two reasons
they aren't into you. There isn't an endless list, really.
Once you know what their primary reasons are, you can see if you
want to change this about yourself. If you don't want to, then
move on. If you do, make the change, and let them know.
There is obviously more to all of this, but these are the top three
causes of relationships ending and the top three methods you can use
to reconnect and get back together with your ex.
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