Relationship Advice About
You know this. Problems and irritations
will occur between any two mates. Our partner will be rude at times,
unpleasant to us at times, thoughtless towards us at times.
This is going to happen. We all know this.
If we can't let these irritations go, we will
begin to a big problem in the relationship. It will build up
and become an ongoing issue.
We can get stuck thinking about what they did wrong to us, how they
shouldn't have done it, etc. If we keep thinking about it and
getting mad about it, we create even more relationship damage.
This is where forgiveness becomes an essential tool in our
relationship toolkit. Forgiveness is a must for keeping
relationships from growing apart. It is a must for keeping us in
love instead of out of love.
But how can you forgive when what happened is so upsetting and keeps
replaying in your mind? How can you let it go when it won't let you
One way to forgive is to practice not taking what they did so
personally. This will help you to let go of it more readily.
What does this mean? It means that when they were rude or when they
were unthoughtful or when they yelled at you that it is about them,
not about you. They are trying, like all of us, to do the best they
can. And, like all of us, they get frustrated and upset and
irritable about things from time to time. And sometimes, they will
vent or release that frustration all over you. You just happened to
If you start to consider that it wasn't about you, even though they
yelled at you, then you can begin to have room to let it go.
Learning to let go is the key to forgiveness. Whatever you have to
do to do that is the skill you want to practice. They were rude to
you happened. But how you respond, how long you carry around your
anger or hurt, is up to you. You can let go of your anger with a
The thing is, if you don't forgive, it hurts you. All those angry
and hurtful thoughts you have are just poison in your own system.
They are damaging the relationship. Practice letting go of bad
things and forgiving and it will help you and your relationship to
We never got taught relationship skills in school.
Spending a few minutes learning more relationship intelligence can pay
off with years of more love, deeper bonding and emotional connection.
Relationship advice can be simple and doesn't need to be hard to