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Relationship Advice Help On
Playful Intimacy
We all get into relationships to feel love. At
first there's lots of it, but after a while it becomes more hit and
miss. If you want to increase the love you actually feel in your
relationship, there are many powerful ways to do this.
One skill you can use to double the love you feel is called Playful
Intimacy. This is a tool that you can learn in minutes and use to
add to the love you feel starting today. In just minutes from
now you can consciously on purpose add more love to your
relationship.
To start using the tool of playful intimacy, stop a moment and think
of 4 things your mate could do that would make you feel good, happy
and loved. Start with easy actions they could take that wouldn't
take long but that would make you feel nice, happy, pleased if they
did them.
You can think of bedroom acts, but for this
exercise start out with things your mate could do that would make
you feel loved outside the bedroom.
It could be wearing sexy lingerie around the house, giving you a
shoulder massage, or cuddling on the couch for a few minutes after
you both get home from work. What wouldn't take much more than five
minutes of time from your mate that would please you?
Once you've come up with a few things, you are well on your way to
doubling the love you feel. Instead of making your mate try to
figure out little things they could do to make you happy, you figure
it out for them!
Next you make an Intimate Request every day. You ask them to cuddle
on the couch for a few minutes after dinner. Or you ask them to rub
the tiredness from your feet.
Here's the heart of the skill. You and your mate want more love.
They can't read your mind. You figure out what makes you feel loved
then ask them to do those things! You ask them playfully, or you
offer a trade, but you ask! Make it okay if they say no sometimes,
but ask.
You really can add more love to your relationship consciously. You
can cause more love. You stop moping about diminishing love and you
be proactive to build more of it into your love life. Then ask your
mate what would make them feel good, and do some of those things for
them. In just minutes from now you can see how this works to double
the love you both feel in your relationship.
Actions Steps you can consider taking for this
insight:1. See if you can
create a list of at least four things your mate could do for you that
would make you feel loved or appreciated.
2. Ask for at least one of these things
every day for the next week. Be playful and fun while asking, and
make it okay if they say no. It may take them a while to get in
the swing of this. While doing so, practice looking them
directly in the eye. Drink them in.
3. Once it starts working, ask them what
you can do for them to make them purr!
We never got taught relationship skills in school.
Spending a few minutes learning more relationship intelligence can pay
off with years of more love, deeper bonding and emotional connection.
Relationship advice can be simple and doesn't need to be hard to
follow!
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