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Relationship Advice On Doubling Intimacy

We all get into relationships to feel more love and intimacy. But we often don't know what to do to feel more love. Are there some actions you can take to increase intimacy?

A great piece of relationship intelligence to discover and apply in your love life is that yes, there are things you can actually do to create the experience of love and intimacy. There are actions you can take every day that will build more feelings of true love into your relationship. By extension, if you are not taking these actions, you may be missing out on or hurting your chances to build the love between you as a couple.

So you don't have to sit around and wait and wish and hope for more intimacy.  You can take charge and make intimacy happen in your relationship.  This is powerful news.

There are lots of different powerful acts you can take to increase love in your marriage. We'll talk about just one of these now, that you can start using more of today: understanding.  The act of understanding.

If your mate says they are worried about an upcoming job interview, they might look to you like they aren't that worried. They may look like they are in control and unruffled. So you don't really discuss their concern with them. But inside, they may be feeling very afraid. If you blow them off and don't discuss their concerns, they may feel like you don't really care about them and don't understand them.

Here is some potent relationship advice: Feeling heard and understood is a basic human intimacy need. Take time to make your mate feel heard and understood and make sure you feel heard and understood around any emotional issue and you will both feel more love and intimacy. If they ask for more help with the kids and all you do is shout out to them to "keep it down," your mate might not feel very heard and understood.

How do you make your lover feel heard and understood? A simple way is to repeat back what you heard. "So the kids are driving you crazy and you want some help, right? What do you want me to take care of?" Telling your partner what you heard and asking clarifying questions will make them feel perfectly understood.

We all talk to our mates many times a day, but we don't necessarily listen and understand each other all that often. Making sure you and your mate feel heard and understood on any issue and it will pay off in years of closer connection and feelings of intimacy.

This is a simple way to express true love. Listening and understanding.  There are many more, but this is a good foundational practice. Turn your true love into direct action, shine your light, and see what a difference it makes in the world.

We never got taught relationship skills in school.  Spending a few minutes learning more relationship intelligence can pay off with years of more love, deeper bonding and emotional connection.  Relationship advice can be simple and doesn't need to be hard to follow!

 

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