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Relationship Advice Help BookYou can read much of the book Train Your Mate - How To Have The Relationship You Want, here, to see if it is for you! Train Your Mate - How To Have The Relationship You Want continued... Try not to get all equal rights on me here. We’re going someplace different. Consider how this plays out from a feminine perspective. When girls are young, you played with dolls and you played house and you played at imaginary tea parties. The fact that most all women play with dolls (figurines, stuffed animals, etc.) as young girls is no trivial matter. Around the world, in almost every culture, girls play with dolls in some form. What happens when you play with dolls is that you practice nurturing and you develop and express your maternal "instinct." Another way of saying it is that young girls play at nurturing. You cuddle the doll, you talk to the doll, you pay attention to the doll’s needs, you empathize and practice caring for someone outside yourself. Amazing! We have a worldwide culture where girls "play" at nurturing. Nurturing is a High Feminine quality. Women get into the connection and expression of the Deep Feminine at a very early age. Not only that, little girls play house and have imaginary tea parties. Again, this is remarkable. At an imaginary tea party girls (or a girl and her dolls) will sit around and pretend to drink tea or coffee and eat pretend (or real) cookies. While this is happening they are doing something else that is High Feminine. They are communicating and connecting! They sit around and talk about how their dolls are doing in school, what the boys are up to now, etc. Another level of describing it is that young girls play at shared or non-competitive communicating. Playing house has to do with nesting, creating an imaginary home, cooperating with playmates to set it up and get the chores done. Nesting, cooperating, nurturing, caring and bonding through communication are high feminine qualities. As a young girl, you developed and practiced these skills. You grew up with them. You played at them when you were a child. Whether it is because, as sociologists say, you were "socialized" to play these games, or whether it is because, as the universe suggests, you are a living expression of Feminine Energy on this planet, you grew up developing and practicing these qualities, all of which are important to relationships and bonding.
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