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So if you are a female, you grew up in part expressing intimacy skills! You empathized with your dolls, you showed care for them, you nurtured and communicated with them. You listened to what they had to "say" and you responded to their needs. Nesting, nurturing, caring and empathic communication are intimacy "skills."

Intimacy doesn't happen on its own. It happens because one person - and hopefully two - open up, become other-centered, empathize, and connect.

Now, it doesn't matter how much you as a woman individually played with dolls, or played house or tea parties. Maybe because of money and how your parents were you loved and nurtured a lot of dolls or maybe you only got to occasionally imagine playing with one. It is universal that young girls "play" more at communicating, more at nurturing, more noncompetitively than boys do. Whatever your level of play in these areas, you can be fairly certain that compared to boys, you got a lot of connection to and expression of these feminine qualities. You had no choice because Feminine Energy is part of who you are.

Now, if you look a bit deeper at Feminine Energy and how it works, you could say that it gets expressed in three different forms. High Feminine Energy, Low Feminine Energy, and a mix of the two, which I call Mid Feminine. Each woman has direct continuing access to Feminine energy.

The High Feminine. High Feminine Energy is felt and expressed as

· Loving

· Caring

· Nurturing

· Compassion

· Birthing

· Surrendering

· Creativity

· Connection

· Communing

· Family

These aren’t the only high feminine qualities, but they give you an idea. On the high end, women can be loving, nurturing, giving, compassionate, intimate. Think Bountiful Mother Earth. When women are encompassing the high feminine, they are expressing these kinds of delightful qualities that we all appreciate.

Obviously, though, women aren’t just loving, creative, nurturing and bonded. There are some low or unpleasant expressions of feminine energy as well.

The Low Feminine. Low Feminine Energy are qualities like:

· Being a Victim

· Over Passivity

· Being a Martyr

· Avoiding Conflict

· Unfocused and scattered

· Unassertive

· Giving Up

· Being Petty

· Being a Drama Queen

· Jealousy

The Low Feminine is something we’re all aware of. Women can be too passive, they can be too fearful, they can be victims, they can fail to focus and assert themselves when needed. Feminine energy on the low end can keep women from being heard, valued and making a difference. Historically, it has kept them without the vote and still today in many parts of the world treated as the “property” of men.

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