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Relationship Advice Help BookYou can read much of the book Train Your Mate - How To Have The Relationship You Want, here, to see if it is for you! Train Your Mate - How To Have The Relationship You Want continued... The Mid Feminine. Mid Feminine Energy is a mix of the above qualities. We try to do our best in some areas, or we are loving and compassionate and nurturing to some people, but we are victims or martyrs or petty drama queens in other areas. The Mid Feminine is where most people are with their feminine energy. It is sometimes the worst of the feminine, like sticking around in an abusive relationship, and it is sometimes the best of the feminine, being a great single mom and nurturing the kids with no husband and no child support. Feminine energy washes/pulses through women from the time of birth. It’s all there, all the time, in each woman - the High Feminine and the Low. Growing up is about learning to deal with Feminine Energy effectively. How giving should you be? How other focused should you be? What if you are being taken advantage of? How much can you assert yourself without scaring people off? Why can it be so hard to focus and make things happen in your world? Why is conflict so scary? Just because you are a woman and feminine energy runs through you, doesn’t mean you get to feel and express the High Feminine. You have to work at it. The High End of the Feminine is not easy to get to and express in your experience. If it was easy, the whole world would be a much more loving place. You, as a woman, have to struggle to express the high end of your potential. The softness of the feminine can be a blessing or a curse! However, this leads to a useful Relationship Insight. One of the secrets about the feminine, therefore, is that women are not Equal to men, they are Magnificent! In the area of relationships, women have great potential! Women are practiced at nurturing, loving, giving, and connecting. You not only practiced it as a little girl, it is in your blood! The High Feminine rings throughout your being. You are connected to it and can access it at any moment. This is a great gift when it comes to partnering with men! Because now we can consider some secrets about men. While you are practiced at nurturing and giving, men are practiced at less loving pursuits. What games do boys play? Cops and robbers. Cowboys and Indians. Army. These are games of competition and control. While girls are enjoying tea parties, boys are killing each other off and fighting for control in games of cops and robbers and cowboys and indians. Boys are playing at Dominance! There is nothing wrong with these games, boys need to learn to deal with testosterone and male energy. Many sociologists believe that boys are just “enculterated” to fight and try to dominate. That if they were given dolls instead of toy guns that they would be more like females. But parents have noted that this doesn’t seem to be the case. Give boys dolls and before long they are bashing them together or losing the head and limbs! Boys need to play at games of competition and control. Not all the time, of course. But Masculine Energy runs in their makeup. Boys must learn to deal with it, must learn where the boundaries are, must learn how to live with the fire of testosterone. Boys are enculterated growing up to be strong, to not show emotion, to not be vulnerable. So we create castle walls and moats around our feelings, our true inner cores, to protect ourselves. And because of this, boys often grow up to be men who have little clue of how to create intimacy. |